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Friday, September 02, 2005

Penn Vidudhalai

Sujatha recently posted about the idiosyncrasies of the typical Indian, unforward-middle-class, arranged marriages. A frustrated outpouring. Much of her post made agreeable reading, till I reached the very last line. And there she dropped a word that, the more I thought of, the more I felt shouldnt have been there. I left my response in a comment but am also cross-posting it here.

"Penn vidudhalai oru kanavu". Though i see the point in much of your post, i feel that last one is downright pessimistic. Speak about rigid, blinkered practices and i can understand. But please do not, being so privileged enough to be blogging abt this, mix "penn vidudhalai" with just the right to choosing one's partner.

Penn vidudhalai is still a lot about some very fundamental things that we take for granted. Like the right to be born. The right to live. The right to be treated as a human and not as a commodity. The right to be given a basic education. The right to enjoy the pleasures of a childhood instead of being burdened with household chores and the care of siblings. The right to voice an opinion and be heard and treated as someone of consequence. Penn vidudhalai is a strong term. And it is still a dream in many places, but a very achievable dream.

Though the term still sounds so sacred and righteous in Tamil, it translates to the much more frightening, cliched, over-used, mis-used, exploited Women's Lib in english. Something that conjures up in my mind, images of a pack of hungry tigresses tearing me apart :) Eh, ummm... he he. ... hmmmm ... (already weak at the knees) ... cough ... ahem. that was my attempt at humor,... he he. u do see it, dont you. i really meant a group of very shrill ... i mean loud ... no, no.. audible ,, women (or am i supposed to say differently-abled-men? :D ) that fight and ... hmmm ,,, raise their voices for extremely just reasons. aint it so. i.. i .. just get a li'l befuddled at this time. i really ought to go sleep, you know. so mademoiselles, please dont take anything to heart ,,, i am all for women's lib. :D


Blogger Sujatha said...

Least expected the cross-post to be like this... I have replied to this in my blog, din want to paste the same thing here.

Fri Sep 02, 10:06:00 AM CDT 
Anonymous Anonymous said...


U hav rubbed a certain pair of tigresses the wrong way!!! Hehahahaha!!!! U r as good as dead now!!!

-Two shrill loud differently abled men

Fri Sep 02, 11:07:00 AM CDT 
Anonymous Aalthotabupathy said...

Ramu sir,
at first I thought Sujatha as 'He-sujatha' the male writer. But after discussing with Megablabber( I came to understand that it was ur friend 'she Sujatha'. Sorry for being a male chauvinist. Can u get me her/his link for that post, so that I can get myself in the path of holy light of knowledge....?

Sat Sep 03, 02:29:00 AM CDT 
Anonymous Sujatha said...

Dear Aalthotabupathy,
Even after realizing that the author of that post is 'she Sujatha' n not 'He-Sujatha', you ask for 'her/his' link for that post. Guess "women-Shrill loud differently abled men" is the reason behind that confusion. Anyways, the post can be read at


Sat Sep 03, 04:32:00 AM CDT 
Anonymous Aalthotabupathy said...

That She/he was intended for ram. I thought of the she/he thing even before looking into the comments. No offense meant.

He-Sujatha(If he would written the post),
Ram was damn right about "Shrill loud differently abled men" part. Again no offense meant.

Sun Sep 04, 03:51:00 AM CDT 
Anonymous Suja. said...

Raaaammmmmmmmm.....Wake Up.....Post something....

Fri Sep 16, 03:10:00 AM CDT 
Blogger RamV said...

uh .. huh. somebody untie my hands :D
on a more serious note ... ya, will post soon.

Sun Sep 18, 04:13:00 PM CDT 
Anonymous Aalthotabupathy said...

அண்ணே! அப்பிடி என்னண்ணே முக்கியமான வேலை?

subtitle: "Bro! what's that 'more serious note'?"

Tue Sep 27, 11:46:00 PM CDT 
Anonymous Amritha said...

:-)) An interesting view of your thought process in flux!

Sat Jan 07, 05:33:00 PM CST 

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